Significant Emotional Event – Moving on!

It’s been a hectic time and it feels good to Stop and Smell the Coffee again. And of course to have time and inspiration to write again, yes it has been a while.

Over the last few months I have had a close relative diagnosed with cancer. Each to their own here as to how you deal with that diagnosis. Some take on a positive attitude and some take on a negative view. I can’t say who is right or wrong all I know is it is a situation that needs careful consideration.
Then my home for 4 years, sold. Now I do have a great track record here and maybe property is another way forward for me. Let me tell you why…..
I have lived in rented accommodation 4 times now and on 3 occasions the landlord has come to me to give me notice to sell. Each time I have prepared the property for the Estate Agent (Realtor) to come and take pictures. Each time the pictures have been posted on the web. Each time the property has Sold on the first day of viewing.
Left me with a bit of a problem as I was away on holiday for 6 weeks and on return had 10 days to find a place to live and move.
Next a lovely friend died. It hit me much harder than I realised. I was stunned at the suddenness. The memories are of a bright, humble and loving human being, not someone to lose so swiftly. Then all the friends surfacing who were connected by this glowing person all of us needing to express our shock, sadness and loss. That connection has helped as we all spoke of love and kindness in these difficult times of grief and pain.

Overturned patio furniture and pots

Finally, the area I am in now has been hit by 6 days of violent storms, raging seas pulsating their fury onto our newly formed beach. The outbreakers not even taking a small percentage of the shocking devastation that they should have. The beach, walkways, cafe areas torn apart, cars damaged, rocks piled along walkways, trees crippled and broken. It’s horrible to see.

 

Now each of these can easily be called a Significant Event and each one is emotional and looking back I can begin to understand why writing has taken a bit of a back seat. We are faced with stress in our everyday lives and some stressors are deemed to have a much more significant impact on our lives. There are others as well that you may not consider stressors such as lying, late bedtimes, caffeine. noise, commuting and it’s worth reading up on these too as with the recent storms, noise has certainly had an impact as a stressor in this town.

How you deal with such emotional events will determine how you move on and keep working towards your own goals whilst keeping the correct balance between you and those who need you.
My goals have taken a hit recently and now it is time to reflect on the lessons that each of these events have taught me and to move on.

Close relative with cancer. Difficult as I live miles away and there may need to be a choice involved of moving closer, so keeping my options open is a good thing. Something I can’t do is to actually impact on how they view their illness. If I don’t agree with their approach I have to keep my balance and allow them to live their life and keep the support going that I willingly give without judgement.

Losing my home, it actually works with the event above as I need to keep my options open for a while. It also reminded me of two other things, resources and belief. Calling on my resources, great friends, lead to the perfect place to live. Temporary contract and a new friend along the way. Always keep your faith that it will all work out. It has and it does.

Death of a friend. We all seek validation as to who we are and what we are. It is a pity that my lovely friend whose life has gone did not see how much love there was for him. He was a ‘keeper’, a friend we all thought would be here forever. Time to make sure now that those important to us know our feelings about them. Stop dithering about putting on a perfect dinner party, just invite friends round for a gathering. It not about compliments it is about the why….so don’t just say ‘hey you are a great friend’ say instead something meaningful like ‘ I love the way you give me a call just to catch up’ …’I really appreciate how many times you have been there for me’. Friendships take effort even if long distance and long times between contact. make that effort and what your friendships blossom.

Littered with sea debris

Broken palm trees

The devastation of Altea Town. Horrible to see what has happened and at the same time grateful that no lives were lost despite the destruction. There is no time to sit and wallow in the mess, there are lives to be lived and goals to be achieved. The time is now to start to repair and move forward. Call on those resources and get moving again.

 

Torn up boardwalk

Perhaps your goals and dreams are on hold for one reason or another. Now is the time to stop and smell that coffee. Face the obstacles like the adult you are, put those fears and negative beliefs behind you and start moving forward into a positive attitude that will take you one step nearer to your dreams. Keep your balance between yourself and those around you as you never know when you will need each others help and support.

Waterfront sign being rescued

Altea is getting repaired. Now repair your dreams.

 

Beach swept away

Littered with sea debris