In the early days of a relationship, when you first get together then you can see the little differences as ‘sweet’ and ‘cute’. Is it the same when you have been in a relationship for 6 years and then start living together!
One of Russ’s annoying habits to me has always been the way he closes over plastic bags. Like a bag over a loaf of bread or a bag for food you put into the freezer. What is it that drives me mad, it’s the way he twists it, until it creates a small knot.
OK, very neat and very safe but I worked out that I will probably spend about a year in the rest of my life time, assuming I live to 75, un-twisting these blooming bags!
An hour of my life I could do something better with like walking to the lottery shop and buying a winning ticket. An extreme example but that was how I was feeling about this habit.
That was even before we came to live together!
We go walking rescue dogs and although we are told not to, we take dog treats with us. One bag split between us, so we put them treats into a separate bag for each of us.
One of the dog walking rules is to always keep dogs in individual kennels apart, because they are potential threats to attack each other.
Benny and Mr Jones are two of those dogs and we are trying to get them socialised with each other. Mainly though it often means that dog walking is a solitary time.
Great for working on my latest affirmation which is ‘How can I be more successful in helping more people’.
With being out there on your own there are two things that can help you. A mobile phone in case you need to call for help and a bag of dog treats to calm a dog down!
For the dog treats Russ decided to tie them differently.
Mine was knotted tight ………..and his was looped and knotted.
So my biscuit bag was knotted tight and with a huge dog like Mr Jones pulling on you, it was impossible to open the bag. Two hands were needed and a straining dog meant I had to give in and just tear the bag apart spilling the entire contents for just one dog to enjoy.
Benny, also huge was with Russ and the loop closed bag was easier to do. It still needed those two hands though to manage it. Benny was given a treat or two and the rest were safely still in the bag. With a flourish Russ then closed the bag with a twist!
The twist, the thing that annoyed me, had suddenly become the best way forward.
I guess that over the years in a relationship its the little things that start to annoy us. In the beginning and all rose-tinted we don’t notice those ‘flaws‘ in our partner instead all we see is their good side. A few years and those rose tints have gone, perhaps we are then starting to focus on ‘the flaws‘.
By stopping and asking yourself what is good about your partner, maybe its your job that is annoying you or even your weight you could actually turn those niggles into positives and by being more positive you may see something surprising happen in your life. A change for the better.
Yes, Russ is keeping on twisting those bags and do you know what. I’m grateful for them.