To some of my friends I’m the ‘just do it – woman’ and they find that my attitude of having a go at something rubs off on them!
Such as my friend who had been wanting to clear out her spare room to create an office. Then ‘home solutionist’ = Me! Stepped in and helped her to create her plan, put it into action (needed men folk here) and now she loves her new office!
We all have fears and some of them are rational, such as never jumping out of a plane from 3,000 feet without a parachute, or some are irrational such as my fear of moths….. My baby brother apparently has a lot to answer for that one.
I put a movie the other week about setting your self up for a good day and suggested you watched it each morning, and I created one for me which says that
‘I accept new challenges to see more of the world’.
It was interesting in this last week that I was there when someone else did exactly my ambition of seeing more of the world.
Alex and his parents came to see me and his Dad’s ambition for the holiday was that he should try scuba diving and that Alex should try it too.
Alex is 12 years old and to him the thought of being underwater was scary!
- How do you breathe?
- Will I be OK?
- What if I don’t like it?
- Will I let my Dad down?
All totally rational thoughts and especially as this young man had never even snorkeled before!
It was great that we took him to Mundomar first, a water based theme park where you get to see sea lions, dolphins and so much more. So his interest in underwater was there.
Then we went to a great little B&B, which just happened to have a dolphin mosaic on the bottom of the swimming pool.
Alex’s interest in seeing the dolphin, took over and as he slowly listened to instructions and gained confidence in small steps, he launched himself.
The next thing we knew he was off!
The pool held no fear, he knew we were there to support him and help him.
He had a dolphin to look at!
After that he started to teach himself as to how to blow out the tube when it was water logged….
How to go under water and reserve breathe for the blow out. The length of the pool meant nothing to him as he learned his technique. With proud Dad looking on and capturing the event.
The next day, it was off to the beach. The weather was a bit windy and cool and it took us all a few attempts to get into the sea. Then at only Alex’s waist height I told him to put on his mask and snorkel and just stand still, bend till he could look under water and within seconds the fish had arrived to inspect the sand lifted by his feet and the morsels they could find.
Again it was small steps with a swimmer by his side but off he went to marvel at the sights. After only 10 minutes, a it was cold, we had to call a day and yet his fish score was quite high!
The look of pure delight on his face as he left the sea and ran to his Mum and Dad to tell them of his experience was amazing. Father and Son held together in a moment of joint pleasure, anticipation and expectation that more was to come.
Only 2 days later and off we all went to Dive Centre Greenwich in Altea. I backed down from the scuba experience, maybe my small steps had not been taken to get me to the level to see more of the world, or maybe someone was missing who should be sharing it with me?
I went snorkeling instead in rough seas, something I’ve not done before, so a new experience too.
Alex was still unsure, what if he didn’t like it? What if he let his Dad down? He didn’t. He got one on one help, got down two meters (update, I stand corrected, it was 3 meters!) and came up smiling and wondering when he can do it all again!
Alex and his Dad had a fantastic experience and it was all captured on Facebook.
Sometimes others dream and plan for us. Just remember that it is you who makes the decision as to what you do. Alex wanted to please his Dad, yet at only 12 he has been bought up to know he could take the options he wanted to. By scuba diving he gave himself so much more confidence and also a real Father /Son connection that they can enjoy together.
When trying something new, it is all about small steps. Having support. Having wonderful encouragement. Knowing that others believe in you. Maybe you need a distraction as Alex did with the Dolphin in the pool, or the fish at his feet. So ‘just do it’ and through this you will take the next steps in your life.